|Transactional Analysis Psychotherapist & Counsellor Liz Jeffries|
Liz Jeffries offers psychotherapy and counselling for individuals and couples in South Manchester - Sale and Chorlton. Here is a link to Liz's website and blog:
My first impression of this lady was encouraging. I felt Liz respected me. I felt Liz would invite an equal therapeutic relationship, like the client's well-being would matter as much as the therapist in order to make the encounter worthwhile. If I were Liz's client, she would take a genuine interest in me and the mechanics of how I relate to other people.
Liz talks about the importance of feeling comfortable and being able to trust your therapist or counsellor through this post in her blog.
The therapeutic relationship behaves rather like a 'blueprint' for how we might hope to relate to ourselves (internal communication) and towards others in our life (external communication), promoting better and healthier relationships.
Liz Jeffries uses Transactional Analysis as her base for therapy. This can be a resourceful grounding coupled with most therapies because it looks at the patterns of behaviour (often outside of our awareness) that we have learned from influential figures in our past, and how they affect us now. Liz also helps her clients to identify unconscious patterns (particularly the ones that cause us distress) and skilfully challenges our beliefs about them, so that we might grow in personal awareness.
I feel working with Liz would be interesting and enlightening. Through psychotherapy, we would hope to discover and unpick unhelpful or unhealthy habits that we repeat according to our past, and hopefully, with time and patience, learn how to interrupt them in our current experience.
Here is an example of one pattern I discovered through psychotherapy:
In my younger years, I had a tendency to become ill through stress. At the time, some 20 years ago, I didn't realise there was little physically wrong with me - the stomach cramps and sickness were very real, of course they were. Constipation was no joke, neither was the opposite! I pushed and pushed the surgeons to do something about my pain, even though most test results came back as normal.
When my organs began to malfunction and surgery had to be performed because I got myself so uptight - this was definitely real, and very painful. I had no idea most of my pain was stress related, or that my thoughts and feelings could have been making the symptoms much worse.
At the time, if I had a better understanding of how I communicated to and acknowledged the inner 'me', I maybe could have alleviated some, if not most of my suffering.
Take a look at another blog from Liz's website about how our mind can affect our body through thoughts and feelings here.
I would constantly quiet my inner thoughts and push them to the back of my mind in order to please other people. Most of my life I have strived to try and make others happy, forgetting about my own need to live a healthy life. I used to say or do anything to make others happy, unfortunately this made me prey to manipulative and controlling people. My submissive nature would soon be a lure to those wishing to influence me with conditional compliments and manipulations. As a result, my ignored thoughts and feelings needed something else to do, they had to go somewhere. I remember how powerful they were - so intense, I remember mentally jumping outside of my body at the cost of pleasing someone. Just like the continuous urge to say the word 'no'. I would bash the word back down my throat so much that it soon turned into a stomach ache. At some level, I was an expert at making myself ill. At the time I had no idea of what I was doing to myself.
The conclusions I made about my behaviour were a result of attending years of my own personal therapy as well as medical intervention from surgery. Whilst it can be helpful to attend counselling for short term therapy, psychotherapy goes more in-depth and hopes to get to the root of a problem,
Liz mentions this in her blog.
For around eight years afterwards, I went on to train and qualify in person-centred counselling, neuro-linguistic programming and clinical hypnotherapy. So I grasped a good understanding of myself through dissecting my behaviour and personality.
Reading Liz Jeffries' blog reminded me of the power we can have over our well-being and how we can, given time, turn bad experiences around. Discovering how we function and relate to one another can help us to improve our lives and be the person we imagine we would like to be. Psychotherapy can be a huge investment, but I will say, very worthwhile. It certainly made me stronger.
It was a pleasure to meet Liz and discover more about her work.
If you would like to know more about Liz Jeffries, please take a look at her website here, www.therapywithliz.co.uk.
If you would like to read my story and how I eventually addressed controlling and manipulating relationships, here is a link to my book, Jaynie, author Jayne Verity. It is available in paperback or kindle.
(Please remember, I am not suggesting that counselling or psychotherapy is ever a replacement for medical treatment. I always recommend you check out physical symptoms with your doctor.)